SHUT THE HELL UP WHEN I’M TALKING
Words that I constantly heard growing up from my mother and parents around me.
Years of this and you will see that a child eventually grows up to supress their feelings and not to express themselves.
Having a child is hard in itself, but trying to find the right way to discipline them without causing long term effects is even more difficult.
Discipling your child can be challenging, especially when your children aren’t listening and you have multiple children.
That’s why in this article, I’m going to give you these 6 Different ways you can discipline your child.
Tip One
No shouting and yelling; growing up, the primary and only way my mother raised me was by yelling and screaming.
There was no “talking it out,” only yelling. It’s funny now looking back at it, but then it was not, and I remember how it made me feel. Now that I have children of my own, I very much looked for better ways to discipline my child rather than constantly yelling.
I don’t want my child to fear me like my mother, and I feel you can have respect without putting fear in a child’s heart. Trying to teach, but is that the optimal way to discipline a child? Maybe try to teach and explain why what your child did was wrong.
Tip Two
Tip two is to align our expectations with the reality that our children will make mistakes that they don’t come out of the womb knowing right and wrong.
Which will go back to teaching our children what’s right and wrong and having patience for when they get it right.
What if someone yelled at you as an adult every time you made a mistake or smacked you for making a mistake in life or at your job? Yeah, you don’t like that picture, do you?
Tip Three
For a long time, my mother would be angry because I would fall asleep during math class but still pass, which always threw me off.
When we finally talked about it, she realized that I learned by just following the examples in the book and doing it myself when it came to math. I say you should understand your child’s learning style.
Some learn from visualization, others learn from listening, and some learn by doing. Once you know your child’s learning style, you can show them how to do certain things in their way vs. getting angry and learning it by your method.
Tip Four
I was with my daughter, and I told her to clean up her room. When she was “done,” she would come and get me. I would go into her room, and her room was not necessarily clean, books still on the floor, toys everywhere, and clothes on the floor.
After A few times telling her repeatedly to clean her room. It finally dawned on me that she may not know exactly how to clean her room.
With that, I decided to meet her halfway and show her that cleaning her room is more than just picking up her stuffed animals. So I showed her where everything goes, and if she needed help with putting anything up, she could come and get me.
SO, learn to meet your kids halfway. That may make all the difference in you telling a child 100 times vs. 5o times.
Tip Five
Ok, I know some readers may be reading this and thinking to themselves, “So are you telling me to explain to my child, give them choices, but what about the consequences?”
In life, there are consequences for each action, positive or negative. Our children are not exempt. So, of course, disciplining our children is necessary but the way we do it is more important.
For instance, if they are damaging behavior to themselves or others, that calls for a consequence. Not saying the result have to be negative. The impact could be positive, like doing choirs to think about their choices.
When you explain to a child why a particular consequence is being passed down, they will more thoroughly understand than just hitting them and sending them to bed without dinner (yeah, some parents are cruel).
Tip Six
The last tip I would want to give parents to help discipline their child is simple, but it’s not easy to do.
Be a role model to your kids.
More is caught than taught, meaning if you want your child to have discipline and be in control of their lives and take responsibility for their actions.
Then it would behoove you to be their role model. So they can see the change that YOU want them to be. Everybody knows kids listen and watch everything you do (if you know it or not).
Final Thoughts
I understand a lot of these tips require patience most of all. Something a lot of parents don’t have. That’s the main goal when it comes to all of these tips, just have patience.
If you have any more tips or like/dislike this list, then please comment below!! Thanks for reading!!